Friday, July 27, 2012

Who left the faucet on?

Okay, confession time.  I have observed over the course of my adult life that there are occasional seasons where I find myself unusually close to my emotions and often unable to control them from spilling over.  I'm probably risking my Man Card (yet again) but during these "periods" (and I use the term intentionally for you lovers of the double entendre) I find myself laughing or crying to the point of tears following a commercial that hits me a certain way, or a movie that touches a heart-string, or some such thing.

So I'm watching some of the stories leading up to the opening ceremonies of the Olympics in London.  And they're showcasing some of the paths taken by specific athletes leading to the UK - stories of family, of friends, of personal and community sacrifice.  And I'm crying like a schoolgirl after her first break-up.  Then, later in the week, I'm watching a movie I've seen at least a dozen times (or at least watched fractionally cause I have the lines memorized) and the ending, which I've seen over and over, still causes me to get all teary-eyed and scramble for tissue.
Do you recall this scene from "Sleepless"?  And they were at least faking it...
Like I mentioned above, this doesn't happen all the time.  I'll go through about a week of this "mushy phase" and then snap out of it for months.  And for the life of me I can't figure out the cause.  There's no identifiable trigger or event that's happened immediately before or during that I can identify.  Perhaps it's a shift in the lunar gravitational pull?  Or solar flares?  Maybe the Mayan calendar offers some arcane explanation?

Whatever it is, it's weird.  And don't get me wrong, I have no problem shedding a few tears when I feel it's truly warranted.  I'm comfortable enough in my masculinity to recognize that grown men can and should cry or exhibit other forms of emotion.  I'd just prefer it not be from watching the housewife in the ADT commercial talk about her newly-regained peace-of-mind following a burglary attempt on her home.  Or seeing a YouTube clip of someone's pet miniature pig.  Or watching through waterworks as Jack Nicholson describes his salvation at Morgan Freeman's funeral in the "Bucket List" (for those of you who are regular readers).
Seriously - this would KILL me right about now...
Maybe, however, it's a good thing.  An internal cleansing of sorts.  A reset button I unconsciously push to reaffirm my humanity, my ability to feel, to hurt with others, to let down my defenses.  While unpleasant and certainly uncomfortable, perhaps it's an integral part of how I'm programmed.  Either that, or I'm simply a complete candy-assed pansy!  Jury's still out...


Wednesday, July 25, 2012

Restless about the escalation of violence...


Unless you're living in a tent in the woods with no access to television or radio, you've no doubt heard about the tragic events that took place recently in Aurora, Colorado.  Essentially, a lone gunman, dressed and with hair dyed to appear as the Joker, opened fire in a crowded movie theater during the premiere of the newest Batman film, killing 12 people and wounding dozens more.  He had purchased four weapons and more than 6,000 rounds of ammunition in recent months, and had further booby-trapped his apartment with makeshift gasoline-based explosives (including more than 30 grenades) to injure police and officials if and when a search was conducted.

As disturbing as this incident is in its own right, what's more disturbing is the ripple effect this event is having in other parts of the country.  Consider the following headlines since the tragic events in Aurora:

  • In Maine, police stop 49 year-old Timothy Courtois for speeding.  Upon searching his vehicle, officials find an AK-47 assault weapon, four handguns, and several boxes of ammunition and news clippings of the Colorado shooting.  The man tells authorities he attended the Batman film in Saco, Maine on Saturday with a loaded gun in his backpack and told authorities he was traveling to Derry, New Hampshire to shoot a former employer.
  • In Arizona, a man is arrested on charges of disorderly conduct and threatening and intimidating after creating a commotion.  Michael William Borboa, 26, entered a movie theater intoxicated and carrying a large backpack.  He began acting strangely and startling patrons during the film.  When an individual confronted Borboa, mass hysteria occurred and more than 50 plus individuals ran from the theater.
  • In LA County, authorities arrested a man at a theater in Norwalk on Sunday.  The man, Clark Tabor, uttered threats and made references to the Colorado shooting.  He is arrested for making terrorist threats.  There is a backpack in his possession (no weapon is found) and a search of his home also turns up nothing suspicious.
It seems that these horrible tragedies are becoming more and more common in our society and culture.  Some will point to the ease of access to weapons and will call for increased gun control legislation and enforcement.  Others will blame mental illness and argue in defense of the accused that they'll need close monitoring, drug treatment, and treatment - that the actions of these individuals were not their fault, but the result of a defect in their mental acuity.  Still others will find a way to lay the culpability at the feet of Obama and the Democrats or Romney and the conservatives and will argue for their respective political platform.

I'm no expert, and don't feel adequately informed or educated to offer some brilliant opinion on the causality of this increasing string of violence taking place in our country.  I'll simply state the obvious - as an American, as a parent, as a member of society - I'm saddened and worried about the current state of affairs and what lies ahead in terms of future headlines.  The combination of violence in film, music, video games, and media; the accessibility of guns, ammunition, weapons, explosives combined with the internet's 24/7 access to information on building bombs, articles on anarchy and creating chaos; the increase in recognizing mental illness in the general population; the thirst and hunger from so many in our society to grab media attention through radical and sensational behavior - all ingredients that when combined have the potential to lead to further turmoil and senseless violence, much like what we've seen and read about lately.
The next generation...

Can I end this on a positive note?  I'd like to compliment several of the media outlets who have tried nobly to keep the focus of their reporting, not on the accused, but instead on the victims, survivors, and heroes of last week's tragedy.  Members of the military, some recently returned from overseas assignments in Afghanistan/Iraq who happened to be in the theater; the police and rescue responders who shepherded civilians to safety; youth and parents who shielded family members, friends, even total strangers inside the theater to protect them from being injured - amazing stories of courage, compassion, and character.  You'll find mention of Matt McQuinn who pulled his girlfriend, Samantha Yowler to the ground and shielded her with his body.  He was hit by three bullets and died protecting her.  Or Stephanie Davies, 21 who pulled Allie Young, 19 out of the aisle in the theater, placed her fingers in the bullet wound of young Allie's neck to stave off the bleeding and used her other hand to dial 911.  Or the moviegoers that removed belts to use as makeshift tourniquets to save other victims once outside the theater.  Stories that illustrate all that is good and noble in an increasingly dangerous and violent world.

I don't know what we'll ultimately learn from the tragedy in Colorado or the changes that might occur in response to this horrible event.  And Columbine.  And the Virginia Tech shootings.  And the shootings at Fort Hood.  Perhaps it's an inevitable trend of behavior where we'll simply have to be better prepared and more vigilant in all our daily activities.  Perhaps we'll begin seeing armed guards and X-ray machines at our banks, bowling alleys, grocery stores, and theaters in the months and years to come.  But a change has taken place in our society where the fact that senseless violence can and will occur has become accepted.  And villains will continue to find ever increasing ways to hurt and injure and kill those around us.  And heroes will continue to rise to the occasion and do what they can to help and rescue the victims.

What else can we really do?

Thursday, July 19, 2012

Bucket Lists...

To begin, if you haven't seen the movie, stop what you are doing, find a friend with a big TV and surround sound and WATCH THIS FILM!!!


I love this movie, because I love the message behind it.  It shouldn't take cancer or another life-threatening illness to remind us of how precious or preciously short life is.  There simply isn't enough time to spend it wasted on routine or the status quo or the humdrum of not stretching beyond our comfort zone pressing beyond our perceived capabilities.  Our lives should be filled with interesting people, unique experiences, adventures, love and romance, the stuff of legend.

A bucket list, simply defined, is "a list of tasks to complete before one dies, or 'kicks the proverbial bucket'..." (see Merriam-Webster).  What a simple yet profound concept.  But it's not enough to simply give occasional thought to this concept - the list must be contemplated, pondered, and ultimately written down.  No escape hatches, no excuses.  It can be long or short - that is really an individual and private decision, based largely on the dreams and aspirations of each list's owner - but it MUST be acted upon, a little at a time, until the list is complete.  And the time to start your list is now.  And the time to start crossing things off your list - also now.

So for fun I'm challenging you to join me in starting a personal bucket list.  Whether you're a close friend or a total stranger, I think it'll be fun to quit making excuses or justify putting off our personal opportunity to "Seize the Day" and start right now.  And never wanting to be one that preaches what he doesn't practice, I thought I'd share some of the items from the list I've started.  Perhaps they'll inspire you or maybe they'll offer additional insight into what makes the Restless Recruiter tick...

My Bucket List

  1. Become a Master Scuba Diver
  2. Write the novel that's within me
  3. Find my soulmate and live my very own romantic comedy
  4. Explore Eastern Europe by rail or by boat
  5. Master underwater photography
  6. Jump out of a perfectly good airplane
  7. Make my parents proud
  8. Explore Greece and Malta (my grandmother's favorite place)
  9. Take a gondola ride in Venice
  10. Be the father to my son that my father was for me
  11. Possess a stone from the pyramids in Egypt
  12. Swim with the whale sharks
  13. Take a boat ride down the Amazon
  14. Complete an African safari
  15. Make someone smile and someone laugh each and every day
Okay the ball (or bucket) is in your court!  Enjoy the exercise, good luck with your list, and have an awesome weekend!!

RR


Monday, July 16, 2012

Restless about blessings in disguise...

I'm fascinated how divine inspiration (some might call it fate or serendipity) shapes the fabric of our lives at a time when we least expect it or in ways we're unable to predict.  Sometimes the smallest of things or the simplest of encounters can have impacts that stretch well beyond our capacity to appreciate or comprehend.  Let me provide an example to illustrate my point...

At the age of 19, I had an incredible opportunity to serve a two-year mission for my church.  Now for those unfamiliar with the missionary program, a few details.  We don't have the opportunity to choose where we serve (that decision is made by the church leadership); however, we do have the chance to select our preferences.  So if we can step back in time to this particular moment in my life, you would know that I was supremely confident that I would be selected to serve in Germany or somewhere in Europe.  This was because of my previous experience living there, learning the language, and immersing myself in the culture while in high school.  I had included all this information in my missionary application and was pretty assured I would be headed there to complete my mission.

Imagine my surprise, therefore, when I received a call to serve in Porto Alegre, Brazil where I would be required to learn and speak Portuguese!  Talk about coming out of left-field.  At the time, I couldn't locate Brazil on a map and the summation of my knowledge of the country included the Amazon jungle; familiarity with the soccer legend, Pele; and Carnival.  And I didn't know a word of Portuguese - palavra nenhuma.  And I was disappointed.  I felt a mistake had been made.  Certainly I was needed elsewhere and clearly my talents and previous experiences would be wasted on this assignment.  I mean, what possible longer-term benefit could serving in Brazil or fluency in Portuguese have for my life post-mission?

Fast-forward several years (okay okay, 21 years later...) and you'll see how this small incident opened doors that continue to bless and benefit my life.  I accepted the call and went to Brazil and, in short, LOVED every facet of the experience.  The people, the culture, the beautiful language, the food - everything about my missionary experience was life-altering.  I had interactions, developed relationships, and went through events that could not have happened anywhere else or through any other capacity than being in Brazil.  I returned home and tested out of 18 credits of Portuguese at college that greatly improved my overall GPA.  That was the immediate benefit but the blessings continue to roll in.

I've identified a substantial population of Brazilians here in the Atlanta area that continue to provide incredible opportunities for service and to be served.  I've used my language skills to translate for medical procedures for these wonderful individuals, review legal documents and translate the religious services for the non-English speaking Brazilians that attend our church.  I've been invited to parties, meals, activities and am treated like a member of the Brazilian family here in my own backyard.

I was recently asked by my current employer to serve as a Regional Advisor for all our recruiting activities in South America (with an emphasis on Brazil where we're experiencing our most explosive growth).  And wouldn't you know it, I'm the only member of the recruiting team and US leadership team that happens to speak Portuguese and has previous experience living in the country.  This transition will likely pave the way to additional advancement within the organization and allow me to form relations with key leaders that wouldn't have happened through any other channel.  I have trips planned in August and September and, rest assured, I'll be leveraging my language skills and previous experience fairly heavily.

I share this as a simple life lesson but an important one.  Sometimes things happen or choices are required offering options that are often unexpected and under-appreciated.  Don't discount them!  They might be blessings in disguise and have the potential to offer life-long opportunities and rewards.  I can't imagine what my life would be today without the richness of the experiences I encountered in Brazil and continue to realize years later.  Don't deny yourself the adventure of taking the road less traveled - it can make all the difference!